Don't you ever forget that YOU are people too!
Friends. Did you ever even think maybe the post or comment or email that you are responding to you wasn't kind in the first place? Maybe their expectation of what you should or should not be doing is totally unrealistic?
"You are not in control of other people's feelings." I have this quote on my computer. I have to. At times I've been trapped by my own inability to move forward because of what people might think of me. I'm definitely a people-pleasing personality and have spent a lifetime thinking I can't do anything right because I don't seem to work well in the land of routine. Guess what I've discovered? Maybe you are not born to fit in the systems that are defined by others. Maybe your job is to figure out how to fit in your way even if it's never been done before. I've spent a lifetime seeking validation outside of myself to the point where I had to relearn and still am learning to trust myself on the smallest things. I habitually let others make decisions so that I wouldn't have to so I couldn't make anyone upset. I didn't even want to tell someone that I needed to pee while driving because I didn't want to inconvenience THEM! It's a natural bodily function for the love of everything holy. I couldn't even tell you what things I enjoyed in the world but could tell you what things everyone else around me loved.
I never thought about what do I want, me, Tara. What does Tara enjoy? One of my biggest mind-blowing moments is learning that you don't have to explain yourself. If you do explain yourself then people have the tendency to decide whether your response is valid...TO THEM. I started to feel trapped by having a love & kindness movement at times. If I say this response to a post, will they think I'm being kind? If I say that thing will they think it's loving?
Friends. Did you ever even think maybe the post or comment or email that you are responding to you wasn't kind in the first place? Maybe their expectation of what you should or should not be doing is totally unrealistic? Maybe their expectations were unkind and you have no obligation to say anything, respond or do anything! Or you CAN! You can push back with love or block or unfriend because that is what is kind to YOU in the moment! It's up to you! Isn't that so cool?? We have to believe that our people, our heart and soul connections know who we are and the more you authentically show up as you, the more you can narrow down the search of who your people are!
The more I think about it, figuring out who we really are in our entirety and not being afraid to let that shine is the most loving thing we can do. As the founder of a love and kindness movement that truly loves people and I really really do, never forget, don't you EVER forget, that YOU are people too.